Life After Law School

1 Year Ago, 

I graduated Law School exactly a year ago, I can't believe time has flown by. I moved on to a new adventure with another school, in another world. I am now here at George Mason, working toward a Master's in Business Administration, with approx. a year down in the program. With one more year left of school, I am ready for this game to end. I've had numerous people tell me that what I am doing is too much school, however, I think I am exactly where I want to be. With that being said, it has been a crazy year; with moving, transitioning back into the DC culture, back into my home, taking the DC bar exam, and now here...

The DC Bar Exam

It has been approx. 10 weeks since have taken the DC bar exam, I am waiting for the results. With a year behind me I can't afford to lose another 6mo - a year. The Bar has taught me many things, and patience is one of them. I don't think I can survive another 6 mo of studying and waiting. This has been one of the most trying times of my life. There are wants and needs in life, and I am ready to start this new journey to allow myself to continue on. 

... The future

As anyone in the world, we all don't know what is to come. Life is rough, but some how I am capable of staying afloat. I thank my friends for keeping me here and for keeping me sane. This is to what this joyous year will bring. 

-Come At Me 2017, Drew.

A Quickie

While it my sounds like a great idea to indulge with another individual for just a few seconds to experience a great euphoria; this was not such a case. I knew him for a couple of years, he's seen me between various changes in my recent life. Him and I had a wonderful connection, in privacy. I returned to DC last year and we connected again and to find him leave me high and dry. Fast forward to this year and HE reaches out to me. And we (well I) fall head over heels for him, this time it tseemed different, it seemed like we both grew up. 

We began dating and indulging in each other's lives. We decided as a couple to move back to SD together. I was in it to win it. Fast forward to our NYC trip, things just begun to get awkward. Essentially I send out an email from my perspective for us to reflect on. He stops talking to me...so I begin to feel abandoned like the year prior, however I refuse to let this go. I do the Boyfriend thing and try and reach out to him and his friends. Finally I get a message "things aren't going to work out." 

I was heart broken (am). I haven't had a great chemistry with some one for a very long time. While it was a quickie, it taught me that I am capable of falling for another person after the chapter in my life titled "X". While usually I would be upset, I am not. I am grateful to have cared for someone else so deeply, I can truly say I am over my past. So let's close this chapter titled "KK." For you I wish that you can accept who you are and what you are capable of. While I am down another chapter of this never ending story, I can move on to another amazing story, and hopefully another great love. This "quickie," was drawn out but very much needed for me to realize I am capable of love.

The Beginning, 2015.

Here it goes, 
it is the middle of 2015 and I have some thoughts. I learned a lot about my self in the past 9 months. I have learned that I need to become a new me. While I think these past few years have lead me to this point it’s starting to become clearer. There are a few life lessons that I have learned, and I would like to share if I can. 


1.) You have the ability to create your own family. 

• As a gay man who grew up in the age of people bullying you for who you are, and who you love was prominent. But moving into this new LGBTQ (ABOIDOISJDFOIJ, and which ever letters we are adding this month) friendly era, shows that putting in hard work and standing for what you believe in will bring forth the new. Here we are at the new. I am fortunate to be alive for these days, civil rights in this country are hard to press and become the "new normal." I digress, but the moral is that my family at times never really got me. I never really connected with them, or they would shame me at one point in time. While they may think different about being gay, the scars are still there. One saying I always loved was, "People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person..." So yes with that being said, my friends who care and love me for who I am with out judgment get the full Andrew, gay and all. You have the power to choose your battles. 

2.) Never give up!

• I’m not the smartest person in these parts, but I can tell you that I have yet to give up on my battle with education. I started with just one to two classes a semester, and now I am about to finish law school almost 3 to 4 years later. You can do it! There is no excuse! You can put the red solo down and do homework and prep for that test, because at the end of the day partying isn’t going to pay your bills. If they are your friends they can wait 2/3 hours till you’re done to go out and have fun. All of my friends think I like to party and go out, while that use to be the case, but guess who did all that with a full time job and got a degree and working on my advance degree. Partying gets old but what doesn’t? That piece of paper you worked hard at.

3.) Love?

• Well I’ve had my fair share of such emotion, while yes I thought at one point I found him, but I was obviously wrong. The moral of the story is to love and love hard, because life is short. I would never change not one moment with that person, it taught me a lot about my self. (Which that is another post - down the line, to tell you about what was learned). Love never came easy for me and that’s ok, I don’t give my heart away at the drop of a hat. Even when I was in love I was a dick, but hey I am consistent about it. However it taught me that I was capable of it, and that I should never settle for less.

There are more lessons learned to come, since this year has yet to be over. Just wanted to give you a little bit of knowledge about my life. Thank you for reading and give me feed back on what you’d like me to write about. I have a thought on everything. I travel, keep up with politics, lived everywhere, and know how to change a tire (hahaha). Let me know and Ill give you my two cents. 

- Drew Bear