The Beginning, 2015.

Here it goes, 
it is the middle of 2015 and I have some thoughts. I learned a lot about my self in the past 9 months. I have learned that I need to become a new me. While I think these past few years have lead me to this point it’s starting to become clearer. There are a few life lessons that I have learned, and I would like to share if I can. 


1.) You have the ability to create your own family. 

• As a gay man who grew up in the age of people bullying you for who you are, and who you love was prominent. But moving into this new LGBTQ (ABOIDOISJDFOIJ, and which ever letters we are adding this month) friendly era, shows that putting in hard work and standing for what you believe in will bring forth the new. Here we are at the new. I am fortunate to be alive for these days, civil rights in this country are hard to press and become the "new normal." I digress, but the moral is that my family at times never really got me. I never really connected with them, or they would shame me at one point in time. While they may think different about being gay, the scars are still there. One saying I always loved was, "People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person..." So yes with that being said, my friends who care and love me for who I am with out judgment get the full Andrew, gay and all. You have the power to choose your battles. 

2.) Never give up!

• I’m not the smartest person in these parts, but I can tell you that I have yet to give up on my battle with education. I started with just one to two classes a semester, and now I am about to finish law school almost 3 to 4 years later. You can do it! There is no excuse! You can put the red solo down and do homework and prep for that test, because at the end of the day partying isn’t going to pay your bills. If they are your friends they can wait 2/3 hours till you’re done to go out and have fun. All of my friends think I like to party and go out, while that use to be the case, but guess who did all that with a full time job and got a degree and working on my advance degree. Partying gets old but what doesn’t? That piece of paper you worked hard at.

3.) Love?

• Well I’ve had my fair share of such emotion, while yes I thought at one point I found him, but I was obviously wrong. The moral of the story is to love and love hard, because life is short. I would never change not one moment with that person, it taught me a lot about my self. (Which that is another post - down the line, to tell you about what was learned). Love never came easy for me and that’s ok, I don’t give my heart away at the drop of a hat. Even when I was in love I was a dick, but hey I am consistent about it. However it taught me that I was capable of it, and that I should never settle for less.

There are more lessons learned to come, since this year has yet to be over. Just wanted to give you a little bit of knowledge about my life. Thank you for reading and give me feed back on what you’d like me to write about. I have a thought on everything. I travel, keep up with politics, lived everywhere, and know how to change a tire (hahaha). Let me know and Ill give you my two cents. 

- Drew Bear